A friend once shared something that hit home: “You can’t expect to be happy in a relationship until you’re happy with yourself.”
This truth was hard to swallow.
For years, I searched...
The reality is that life will disappoint us sometimes. People will let us down. Doors will close. But that’s not the end of our story — it’s just a redirection.
I have two separate Instagram accounts: one where I pretend to be effortlessly cool, fun, artsy and have my life together, and one where I’m supposed to be unfiltered, unbothered and free. And yet, here I am — filtering and bothering.
Recently, I had a friend tell me she was interested in listening to Phoebe Bridgers. If you haven’t been living under a rock, chances are that you’ve at least heard of her before. However, if you’ve never gotten around to listening, that’s okay, because I’m here to help.
Media has often shown society that the way to show that you’re a queer woman (whether that be lesbian, bisexual, pansexual or any other label), is to dress more masculine, carry yourself a certain way or overtly wear rainbow colors. Because of this, people often have a narrow perspective of how we look and dress.
Ghosting may be incredibly rude for someone to do, and it shouldn’t be the only way to end a relationship or interaction, especially a serious one. I try not to end most interactions by ghosting, but I think sometimes it's natural and justified to say goodbye by disappearing.
So many female celebrities get hate from other women for similarly arbitrary reasons, and it all comes from internalized misogyny. It is time to stop this ugly behavior of women tearing down other women and leave it behind in middle school.
