Enter the half-joke, half-serious concept of “silver springing” someone. It’s the idea that you and all the love you bring with you are unforgettable — like a ghost that will eternally haunt them.

The way of surviving life and situationships is that you have to know that you can’t control someone’s thoughts or actions — you can only control your own. Here are just a few tidbits of advice and lessons I’ve learned that have helped me navigate my experiences with situationships. 

I’ve learned that it’s okay not to have all the answers, and it’s okay to speak up even if it feels risky. Following your heart is important, even when it doesn’t make sense. You can’t control the future, so focus on the present and speak up when you feel compelled to do so.