Behind every successful woman doing something correctly is a man whispering in her ear telling her there is a better way to do what she’s already doing correctly. “You’re doing it all wrong, here is actually how it should be done.” “This is really advanced, you won’t understand. Let me explain.” “Did you actually know that (insert very well-known concept here)?”

Dear Abby, is it true that all chivalry is dead? How do I know if I’m just accepting the bare minimum or actually being treated right? I wonder if I am just settling.